You can take it out on someone else who doesn't deserve your anger. You can take it out on yourself, but even that isn't really true, because the people around you will still inadvertently be punished by your angst. You can escape and run - start on a clean slate, or whatever, and pretend nothing ever happened. You can seek revenge, and if you succeed, that's fucking awesome and I would love to hear how you exacted it. Or you can accept that you've been royally fucked over, realise that anger is destructive, have a good think about what you've done wrong and make sure you never do it again, and then go out and get a mindblowing shag.
Sometimes the masochism feels good. Wallowing in self-pity and making yourself a victim of the world and harsh reality feels good, because you get a free pass to being a complete dick. The irony lies in the fact that you're so busy being angry about the injustice being done to you that you fail to notice how much more of a loser your misery is making you.
The point of this (entirely self-referential entry, by the way)? I guess I've learnt that I'm the kind of person who doesn't get even; I get over it, and I'm really happy that I do.
5 comments:
it's a good thing. getting even (and all the emotions that come with it) are just toxic.
agree, it's how we deal with it that matters. hows you doing?
The best course is short-term getting over it, and long term making your enemies obsolete. Never forget, and let the anger be your engine.
Creep up on them and replace them in ways they cannot understand or see.
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When it gets to me, my head fills up with scenes that'd make Quentin Tarantino weep.
But I agree with Anonymous; when I let people get to me, I let them define my Truth. I think this is most upsetting when these are people we care about.
In the end, it should always be our own presence of mind that we should hold dear and sacred, and the best way to defend it is to not let it be disturbed by anythibg.
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